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By: Rejection from the Ivies | The curious counsellor

Rejection from the Ivies | The curious counsellor — Fri, 17 Jul 2015 19:27:54 +0000

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Mon, 13 Jul 2015 00:13:08 +0000

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Tue, 17 Jun 2014 00:28:17 +0000

[…] These new Ivy rejects are far from slackers. They’re incredible kids with impressive resumes — 2,350+ SATs, straight As in their 16 APs, debate champions, flute soloists and MVPs. Parents who have been dreaming of an Ivy education for their kids since conception are scratching their heads, trying to figure out what went wrong. So, why didn’t your child get in? Read this article, funny but with a lot of truth! […]

By: Jo

Jo — Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:05:19 +0000

Oops. LIST not lust. That would be a whole different topic. Lol

By: Jo

Jo — Sun, 20 Apr 2014 14:04:13 +0000

JD. I agree with you. The kids here who keep their lust a secret are the ones who are snarcked upon. I know two girls who lost friendships from this tight lipped approach. Secretiveness was equated with a lack of trust and friendliness.

By: JD

JD — Sun, 06 Apr 2014 15:31:32 +0000

Many kids/parents think applying early will let you in with lesser stats – not true in many places, and a shame to “waste” an early. And you’re absolutely right about Ivies not being the ticket to happiness. We know many kids who get to those schools only to report, “It’s sooooo hard.”

By: Carpool Goddess

Carpool Goddess — Fri, 04 Apr 2014 21:56:37 +0000

I’m so happy these days are behind me. Sigh. The biggest issue I witnessed first hand was that many parents were unrealistic and overly optimistic about their kids’ chances of getting into the top colleges and, big one, didn’t listen to their college counselors’ recommendations and warnings. I know one student/family who insisted on applying early to the most popular Ivy (30 others in her class applied too!) when her daughter’s scores were more in line with “second tier” (excellent, but not Ivy) schools, and are still miffed their daughter didn’t get in and wasted an “early” on it. Yes, everyone feels their child is special, and they are, but, there are a lot of special kids out there competing for the same spot. Ultimately, most kids end up liking where they get in and big shocker to many parents, an Ivy doesn’t insure a good or happy experience. P.S. Bingo on the lab research. All the kids that did lab work in my kids’ schools ended up at Ivys.

By: JD

JD — Fri, 04 Apr 2014 17:58:17 +0000

Great, will feature your comment in a post. Who knew Miami was such a neurotic city?? Proud to observe that SoCal kids ARE more chill. And parents around her realize/accept that all Ivies are crapshoots (including Penn) and decisions are ‘holistic,’ not score based. Admissions committees look to admit a class, not individual students, so the clarinetist might get shut out because the band needs an oboe…nothing personal. All the more reason to love thy safety.

By: JD

JD — Fri, 04 Apr 2014 17:51:01 +0000

Agree. All Ivies are crapshoots, even for legacies. Not a secret.

By: Sahwn

Sahwn — Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:02:49 +0000

#1 is for the weak, so do not apply to the Ivy leagues if you cannot handle rejection. That is simply already a sign you are sure to fail if you cannot handle the fact you did not get into your school of choice. Seriously, it is none of our business what anyone thinks about us. That is ego run amok. Fall down, brush yourself off and get back on the damn horse. These are high quality problems……there will always be somebody with more or less than you, be grateful you are not starving to death or dying. No one cares where you went to undergrad anyway and those who do you may want to reconsider.